Facebook, the finder of lost loves?

If I ever go looking for my heart's desire again, I won't look any farther than my own backyard because if it isn't there than I never really lost it ~ Dorothy, Wizard of Oz

Facebook isn't just for networking or finding old friends and relatives it seems. Apparently it is the hotspot for hunting down, er, I mean finding lost loves. In the last month I have heard the odd story about it, but this last week I've heard three via facebook friends. Their stories almost sound like something of fiction, but they are real true to life stories. (I am only posting two of the stories because two of the three were similiar) I know they aren't as heart wrenching as one would like, nor are they the never ending babble about the US or the swine flu, but once in a while hearing about a happy ending makes me think the world might be ok for a few moments.

The first story I heard this week was about a woman who was found by the first guy she ever dated. They are both now divorcees with children. He has never stopped thinking about her and one day he decided to search for her on facebook. Apparently it wasn't an easy task as she had changed her last name when she married, but through information from other friends, as well as looking up old school chums he was able to find her and now the rest is history.

Another started wondering what ever happened to her first love. They met the last year of high school, but he moved away. This was before the time of internet and texting so they ended up losing touch. (Yes I just heard a millions twenty year olds gasp and go, 'time before the internet and texting?', someone might have restart their hearts). She also went on the facebook hunt and found him. Neither had ever married, until now. They are now engaged and getting married this summer.

I myself have reconnected on facebook with someone I had a mad crush on when I was a teen. In my case, since we have started chatting again, he has found someone else. I of course am still the shy girl in many ways and never spoke up, again. My loss, and I guess in my case, it just isn't in the stars.

I am and always will be a true believer in fate. Things happen, when they happen for a reason. Last week I was back onto my path of not believing and not liking the human race very much, then these stories put a smile on my face. Believe it or not, I'm not always the cynical one. Sometimes I do believe in faerytale endings.

The new monthly issue is up at shebytches.com.

The new monthly issue is up at shebytches.com.

Please help us welcome new writer Heather Wood, returning writer Denise Haggerty and guest author Romy Shiller!

Here is what is in the issue!

Carolina's Bytch If you fight all the time, why do you stay together?

Right now I'm sitting here, TRYING to finish a short story. I have my music turned up and it's very loud, the soundtrack from Repo!

Denise Haggerty “Bad Manners: A 21st Century Epidemic for the "Awakened" Ones”.

I think that there are many people in this world lacking in good manners. The kind of manners taught once upon a time ago by our grandmothers and grandfathers.

Heather Wood Persons, eh?

This month's footage of brave Afghani women holding their largest rally since 1970, and being physically and verbally threatened just for standing up for the right not to have sex with one's husband, got me thinking that myself and other Canadian women shouldn't be so complacent about our own hard-won rights.

Romy Shiller Ogre-Drag

I’ve been thinking about the Shrek movies and Ogre-Drag. I really wanted the films to be innovative and different. To me, they were more of the same—worse because they pretended to “subvert” traditional fairy tales (Poniewozik 1).

Viki Ackland Today (a poem)

If you fight all the time, why do you stay together?

I'm sitting here, TRYING to finish a short story. I have my music turned up and it's very loud, and I am playing the soundtrack from Repo! The Genetic Opera. Normally I don't play music when I write, I prefer nothing going in the background, not even the T.V., as it distracts me, I have it on right now because the couple next door is fighting AGAIN! If you argue all the time, why do you stay together?

I am not trying to sound hypocritical here. I am guilty of this, I stayed in a relationship WAY too long with someone who did anything he could to antagonize me and start fights. However, I learned from this. I will never stay in a relationship if all I do is argue and struggle to keep things calm and me happy!

I keep going back and forth on whether or not to start dating again. I did the math and I haven't 'dated' for almost nine months. (dating meaning, dinners, movies, hanging out, meeting each others friends... dating). Every single time I hear next doors screaming matches, or remind myself of a few former friends tumultuous 'relationships' I take two steps back. Do I really want to get involved with someone again? Do I really want to take a chance that I am going to end up in another relationship that ends because of constant verbal sparring?

I am once again in hermit mode. Partly because I am desperately trying to get this book done and the other part is I don't know if I really want to put myself out there again. As every day goes by I am becoming less wanting of human companionship. I know this sounds strange, but every time I hear people who are suppose to be 'in love' screaming hurtful and sometimes abusive things at each other, I cringe? I also begin to wonder are all relationships like this? Is there anyone out there who really adore each other, never fight and are truly happy? If so I'm not seeing it. I guess I just don't understand, if you love someone, why do you have to fight with them? Shouldn't you be doing everything you can to make each other and yourselves happy?

If you are fighting, then you aren't happy and if you aren't happy, you shouldn't be together. Life is too short to be miserable and until someone steps up and proves me wrong. Proves to me that I can date and be in a relationship with out the fear of being back in the situation I was two years ago, then I am going to not date.

Where I stand

Today would have been day 20 of the 100 day 100% raw challenge. Yesterday I did a lot of thinking about where I am with the challenge and I have to say I'm frustrated. I'm frustrated that even with the amount of time I'm putting into making sure I have awesome raw meals (and it is a lot of time), I'm not feeling happy with this. I've only lost 2.2lbs after 20 days and that confuses me. I've also come to realize that this is way too expensive (I am self employed and on a very tight budget). I know that last statement makes no sense. Healthy fruits and veggies should be inexpensive but they aren't. Sadly we live in a world of fast food and crap that is much cheaper to eat. I'm not going to start eating fast food and crap, no worries of that!

So, where does this leave me. I am going to still stay on a 80-90% raw diet. I had to admit to myself yesterday that part of my frustration is around the fact that I do like cooked food, I just need to be more selective about my choices.

Things that will remain out of my diet as much as possible are:
processed foods
soy
wheat/gluten
high fatty foods

Overall healthwise I do feel better, but emotionally this was a challenge. Though I am disappointed in myself, I did learn a lot at the same time.

Day 16 and frustrated as hell

Ok, I am on day 16 of the 100 day raw challenge. I am also working out as I am doing the challenge. Between the two of them, I should have lost weight, but I haven't. I am still stuck at the 2.2lbs I lost in the few days. Some might argue that if you are changing your diet up and not losing weight, it is because you don't need to. Well the thing here, is I need to. I need to lose 20lbs to be at my healthy weight, so why is it that all raw and advanced cardio work outs have me stopped at 2.2lbs? I am very very confused.

The weather and insomnia are also making this very difficult as well. The cold makes me crave soup and tea. Not sleeping makes me want to drink pots and pots of coffee. I need to get over this hump, so starting sunday am going to do the 3 day juice feast I was talking about.

I'm just glad I didn't pack away my winter things. Spring my arse!

Day 14 of the raw challenge

I'm day 14 into the Raw Challenge. I'm growing weary of rabbit food. But I've committed to this for so many reasons. My health being the most important. I need to start changing it up a bit. I've removed most of the dehydrated stuff from my diet, but am getting sick of salads. I am considering having a all juice/smoothie day at least once a week, to give myself a break.

Though the weather has turned to shit, my attitude is as dark. I've realized I've been down for too long and need to crawl out of the dark, dank hole. Talking to Becks this weekend also helped remind me that I am allowed to be sad once in a while, but I can't let it affect my life.

So, tomorrow I think I am doing an all day juice/smoothie day. It's also my day off from working out. Muscles I forgot are SORE! But that is good, it means I am using them again. Like being raw, I am always on the verge of giving up, but I can't and won't.

Now to make spring happen!

The April Issue of Lipstik Indie is ALIVE

Hey everyone, the April issue of Lipstik Indie (www.lipstikindie.com) is ALIVE. Check out all the amazing indie reviews:

Featured Review
You Never Know - a Memoir (Romy Stiller) Reviewed by Carolina Smart

Bands/Music
David Rynhart and Emily Weedon Reviewed by Nik Beat

Francis Reviewed by Tara Sales

Books
Naked Lens (Jack Sargeant) Reviewed by Carolina Smart

Comics
The Pistoleers (Dan Nokes) Reviewed by Cathy Petch

eZines
Katy Towell's Childrin R Skary Reviewed by Laura Roberts

Zombie Portraits Reviewed by James Dewar