The Baffling Events That Single Women Everywhere Have To Endure

I had an awesome conversation last night with the amazing and talented Kim. I’ve had a couple rough days, partly due to my own inner demons, partly due some incredibly hurtful things that were said to me. After the conversation, I was able to shake that last bit of crabbiness that was still lingering around. Kim reminded me that we have a purpose and nothing, not even peoples stupid words should affect how I feel about myself.

Single, Independent, Strong

When I was 18 I moved away from home. Since then I’ve looked after myself. I’ve always been a very independent, self reliant single female. {with the exception of one long term relationship, in which I was still looking after myself} I’m not going to lie and say I don’t need to have companionship. Hell, I would love to meet that one person who does it for me on all levels. Who wouldn’t? After having two crappy crappy relationships in a row, along with too many jerks in between, I’ve started to wonder if that is even possible and come this July it will be exactly 1 year since I’ve dated. {as I keep telling everyone, I’m on strike till conditions improve, obviously they haven’t}

Embracing your single woman status comes with bonuses, such as freedom and the comfort of knowing that you only answer to you. The not so pleasant flip side of this though, are the BS conversations we have to put up with. The majority of the time it will be ignorant people making lame attempts to hurt your feelings. Occasionally it is people who are ‘concerned’ and feel that all women should be in relationships {even when their own are less than satisfactory}. The first conversation was one I had just a few days ago {and part of what spawned this whole entry}, the rest have happened over time.

“Where is your date?”
“Date?”
“But, it’s Friday night.”
“So.”
“You should be on a date.”
“It’s hard to be on a date if no one asks.”
“Oh come on, I’m sure someone has asked recently.”
“No, not really, no.”
“Well, you are kind of intimidating. You might want to try being nicer.” {fyi, this conversation was with a man, who has a girlfriend, and he was staring at my breasts for most of the evening}
“You know what, you can just bite me.”

What’s the deal with marriage anyway... or questions I’ve had to put up with since I was 21...

“When do you plan on getting married?”
“I’m single.”
“I know, when do you plan on getting married?”
{this usually goes on for a while, like the ‘whose on third’ Abbott and Costello routine, it either ends with me considering banging my head on cement till I’m in a coma or drinking}

Visual aide - Woman your own age is looking at you like you just farted.
“Still single I see.”
{to some being single equates to leprosy or some similar disease}

“Oh you poor thing, being single must be so lonely.”

“Well, at least you have your dogs to keep you company.”

A Mother’s Love

Occasionally mother’s of single women have to endure stupid questions. My Mother is my biggest champion, never taking any guff and telling people to either mind their own business or now her latest “My daughter doesn’t need a man.” Of course that occasionally backfires on her...

These are just a few questions that she has had to deal with and I love her to pieces for voicing out!

“Is you daughter ever getting married?”
or
“What’s wrong with your oldest daughter? All of your other children are either married or have kids?”
“She doesn’t need to.”

“Is your daughter gay?”
“Even if she was it’s none of your business.”

“Shouldn’t she be married by now?”
“Who says she needs to be married?”

I was told my Mother has even taken to cursing at people....

Lets take a moment to think about this, if my own Mother doesn’t worry about me being on my own, why is it so disconcerting to the rest of you? Why is such a biggie for a woman to be single? Rather than ridicule us, or be concerned for us, why not do what the rest of us do. Be proud of us. We are strong, independent women and if you don’t stop picking on us, I’m sending my mother after you.